solitude-un-makes-the-borrowed-self

# Solitude un-makes the borrowed self If nothing exists alone, why did the way out begin by withdrawing? Because the self that enters the dark night is largely borrowed, made of others' desires and braced against the crowd's gaze. Solitude is where that mimic self comes apart. You do not leave relationship in the desert; you leave its rivalrous, mirrored form, so that what returns can meet the other as someone and not an echo. The relational life still needs its deserts. Related: [[transformation-cannot-be-given-only-undergone]], [[self-authored-spirituality-cannot-transform]]